Okay, so I am just going to disclose that what I am about to write is purely an opinion piece predominantly based on MY experiences and MY perceptions. And I decided to write about this because it has really bugged me that as an Asian woman born and raised in the West (Australia) we are not only under estimated, but we always appear to become targets on social media – and no I do not just mean the ramifications of yellow fever – but a more sinister and divisive wedge which is predominantly perpetrated by our own Asians and yes I am referring to certain sections of the Asian men.
Generally, the issues start via conversations and ramblings from some Asian men about white men dating/in relationships with Asian women. It is as though it is some mortal sin or a huge crime for Asian women to have a white boyfriend or husband and that this automatically means that we are doomed, complete sell outs and are no longer qualified to discuss or advocate on Asian issues. Yes I am serious, its that basic. So much anger and all for what? Satisfaction and a few high fives from their fellow brothers in arms? I always wondered whether it would have been more productive if these type of Asian men who consider themselves alpha focus that anger to actually put things in action which will benefit the community and raise our relevance in the conversations of racial equality.
I guess for some of them this is too much to ask. And I do not make this assertion lightly. I mean I have been the recipient of some of these attacks and I am not even famous. A lot of the flack that I have received is because I have stood up against these so called alpha Asian men when they go on their rampage attacking strong and independent Asian women left, right and centre. Many of them feel that Asian women need to heed their every word and kneel by them waiting for approval and a pat on the head. And if we don’t, well we become social media targets. I have been given unsavoury labels such as “feminazi”, “sell out”, “good for nothing Asian woman”, and “white d%^$ worshipper” – all because I support feminist viewpoints on empowering Asian women in various Facebook groups and forums which seem to create and breed this vile and toxic environment.
Look at the hoo ha which involves Constance Wu speaking out about the white washing in Hollywood and speaking out on the casting of Matt Damon in the Great Wall movie. Some of these Asian males criticised her and used her personal life and relationships against her being able to speak up for Asian Americans, all because she has a white partner. Imagine if all that anger and wasted time attacking the wrong thing be more focused on supporting Constance’ voice? How much stronger and unified would we be as a global community?
Not too long ago, Offender Philip wrote about this exact issue. The title he used was fitting: Yes, Constance Wu Can Have a White Boyfriend & Still Advocate for Asian Americans… and of course he received flack from these type of Asian males. Just take a look at the post and some of the comments and you will get what I am saying.
It is a stark contradiction because when an Asian man dates/ marries a white woman – that relationship is revered, put on a pedestal and spoken very highly upon. But its a crime when it is the other way around. An odd phenomenon but I guess its all about the Asian man and about them retaining their title as an “alpha”. I guess its easier to attack the Asian woman and do this behind the computer screen, condemning them over social media. If you would like more evidence on all this, just check out the many reddit threads dedicated to discussing how Asian women are selling out.
So where to from here? Can we ever unite and fight the same fights instead of fighting each other? Well I hope so, because that is the only way we will achieve greater empowerment. But before we can even reach this point, we must get over being fickle and move beyond egos. Stop attacking us Asian women online and work with us. That is all I will say for now. End of topic.